No longer a recovering undercover over lover. Recovered over a love I thought I couldn’t get over.

"A healthy Black woman loves herself unconditionally. She knows she is where she’s supposed to be… She recognizes that she is a work in progress. Self-love has to do with everything that she is, both physically, spiritually, emotionally, and all that that contains."
- Dance instructor, age 35, Girls Empowerment Project, from Imagining Black Womanhood (via daughterofzami)

Thoughts

I used to think it was more important to date a guy who says nice things when we are together.

Since most relationships end, I realized it’s also very important to date a guy who won’t say horrible things if we were to ever end.

fiialqamarr:

bcapitalized:

“Tell Me Again”Tell me again why we should forgetI see that you haven’t forgotten Pearl Harbor yetTell me again why you say you can’tYou paid everyone else for their time in the campsTell me again why we should ignoreThe many times you said “you’re mama’s a whore”Tell me again why because we fail to seeThe reasons you hung all our men from a treeTell me again why our history you chokedFor chaining us, killing us, suppressing our voteTell me again why we should share your terrorOur enemy’s long been who you see in the mirrorTell me again why you wouldn’t relentFrom calling our ancestors niggers and wenchTell me again why so we’ll understandAnd please with a straight face if you think you canTell me again why those little girls diedFor once tell the truth not another ‘white lie’Tell me again why now that you live in fearIt’s about time you felt what we felt all those yearsTell me again why because we’re not insaneWe know no one’s cornered the market on painTell me again why is it you find?When you cry your tears they are wet just like mineTell me again why, we pray that you tellWhy when we made your heaven you gave us pure hellTell me again why what is your excuseWhy you won’t compensate us for all your abuseTell me again why because our ancestors needTo hear that you’re sorry for your hate and greedTell me again why, why should we forgiveThe ones who detest the mere fact that we liveI’ll tell you why if I may be so boldWe have to forgive you to save our own souls.From the gospel musical “Reaching For Freedom” by Jay Arrington

I hate seeing shit like this. It physically hurts.

fiialqamarr:

bcapitalized:

“Tell Me Again”

Tell me again why we should forget
I see that you haven’t forgotten Pearl Harbor yet
Tell me again why you say you can’t
You paid everyone else for their time in the camps

Tell me again why we should ignore
The many times you said “you’re mama’s a whore”
Tell me again why because we fail to see
The reasons you hung all our men from a tree

Tell me again why our history you choked
For chaining us, killing us, suppressing our vote
Tell me again why we should share your terror
Our enemy’s long been who you see in the mirror

Tell me again why you wouldn’t relent
From calling our ancestors niggers and wench
Tell me again why so we’ll understand
And please with a straight face if you think you can

Tell me again why those little girls died
For once tell the truth not another ‘white lie’
Tell me again why now that you live in fear
It’s about time you felt what we felt all those years

Tell me again why because we’re not insane
We know no one’s cornered the market on pain
Tell me again why is it you find?
When you cry your tears they are wet just like mine

Tell me again why, we pray that you tell
Why when we made your heaven you gave us pure hell
Tell me again why what is your excuse
Why you won’t compensate us for all your abuse

Tell me again why because our ancestors need
To hear that you’re sorry for your hate and greed
Tell me again why, why should we forgive
The ones who detest the mere fact that we live

I’ll tell you why if I may be so bold
We have to forgive you to save our own souls.

From the gospel musical “Reaching For Freedom” by Jay Arrington

I hate seeing shit like this. It physically hurts.

(via tee-ambition)

I live in a society where everybody brags about cutting people off like nothing. No one wants to work it out? Nah?

"I became insane, with long intervals of horrible sanity."
- Edgar Allen Poe